Turning “55” With Gratitude
By Bernadette A. Moyer
As I embark on yet another birthday, it seemed appropriate to take a moment and to reflect on the wonderful life that I have experienced and just how much gratitude I have for all of it.
1) Thankful for my faith in God; the gift that was given to me on my birth and has sustained me for my entire life.
2) My childhood home with its quirks and trauma and all as it taught me so much about “La Famiglia” and what I would want to leave behind and what would shape me for the future.
3) My continued good health.
4) My intelligence and my abilities to succeed.
5) All of the people who entered my life for whatever roles they played.
6) All of the people who left my life for all the lessons learned that they taught me.
7) My generosity and ability to always have something to give.
8) My wonderful spirit that never breaks even when tested as my core love for life always comes back to me.
9) My grace and class and character.
10) My ability to take any heartache and loss, and learn from it, share it and help others and myself.
11) My love of food and my ability to cook and to bake.
12) My appreciation for the simple pleasures in life from a sunset to a rain storm, taking it all in and appreciating its wonder.
13) My ability to always find the good in people even when they choose to try and make it difficult.
14) My life at the beach.
15) My home in Maryland.
16) My work that allows me to write and to edit and to communicate via the written word.
17) My precious dogs Happy and Chipper who constantly make me laugh and smile.
18) My children the one that I actually birthed and the twins that I adopted. I appreciate all the years together and all the memories.
19) My closest friends for walking this walk with me.
20) My husband Brian who has shown me unconditional love and support and been a real rock for me for over 22 years now.
21) The many wonderful career opportunities that I have been afforded from becoming a Realtor to a successful fundraiser and chief administrator I was passionate about them all and hence succeeded at them all.
22) My Grief to Grace support group.
23) My Parents of Estranged Adult Children support group.
24) My professional writing affiliations.
25) My Interfaith Ministry group.
26) My stable neighborhood where we have lived for over 22 years.
27) The refrigerator/freezer that is filled with food.
28) My new car!
29) The ability to travel across this country and appreciate the United States for all the many wonderful places here. From the ocean to the horse farms and the mountains and all its natural glory.
30) My “other parents” Jack and Marlyn and Priscilla who are always the first ones to send me birthday cards every single year before my actual birth date.
31) Unexpected gifts …
32) This morning’s pumpkin spice flavored coffee.
33) That all of our bills are paid.
34) The security that comes from doing your best.
35) Being older, wiser and smarter and getting stronger as a result.
36) The ability to say “no thank you” to things that just aren’t right for me.
37) My Angels above that support me daily.
38) The peace that I have now since my mother’s passing.
39) The last days spent with my father before he died.
40) Friends who found me on the internet and social media that reconnected from my childhood.
41) Upcoming celebrations and travel plans.
42) Becoming an Interfaith Minister and officiating weddings and supporting people through their grief and loss through death and estrangement.
43) The many young people that I have mentored through the years and the ones that have become like sons and daughters to me. Each one being a gift from God.
44) Finally understanding and getting it that “nothing other people do is because of me, it is because of themselves” learning NOT to take it personally.
45) My readership and most especially the ones that reach out and connect with me. They continue to affirm my work.
46) A whole lifetime of love and of loss that is truly appreciated for all that I have learned from it.
47) An interesting life filled with so much abundance.
48) Being happy right here and right now in this moment in time.
49) My first husband Randy who taught me so much and who died so young but gave me a beautiful daughter. Earlier this year I received another gift from him that was due over 30 years ago, it has affirmed for me that he is looking out for me from above.
50) The Grace of God.
51) No longer being afraid to die, not ready yet, but not fearful of when my time comes.
52) Looking forward to the next half of my 50’s and all that life has yet to offer.
53) A purpose driven life.
54) My appreciation for the arts and my love of music.
55) Love, health and happiness in all their many forms.